|WHAT NOT TO SAY||APPROPRIATE ALTERNATIVES|
|Is she going to give her baby up? or
Is she going to put up her child for adoption?
|Place her child for adoption or
Make an adoption plan for her child
|Did she decide to keep her baby?||Did she choose to parent?|
|Why did the birth mother not want the baby?||Just don’t make assumptions|
|Foster child or
|A child in care or
A child in foster care or
A child who is placed with you
|I could never do what you do or
I could never give the child back! or
I could never love a child and let him go
|Thank you for what you do|
|Aren’t you worried about your own kids? or
What might happen to your biological children?
|What a great learning opportunity for your biological children|
|Is he yours? or
Is he your own? or
Is this your real child? or
Which one is yours?
|Is he your biological child?|
|Real parents or
Are you his real parents?
|Biological parents or
Birth parents or
Are you the child’s biological parents?
|Are they siblings?||Are your children biological siblings?|
|Do you have (or want to have) children of your own? or
Do you (or don’t you) want your own children?
|Do you have biological children as well?
|Where did you get your baby?||I’d love to hear the story of your adoption/foster care journey|
|What is he?||Where was he born?|
|Was it expensive? or
How much did he cost?
|I’d love to hear how families typically fund their adoptions and what type of financial commitment could be expected.|
|He is so lucky||I’m so thankful God ordained this adoption|
|I’m going to take you home with me||Just don’t say it|
|Normal family or
|Families with only biological children|
|The child IS adopted||The child WAS adopted|
Access a video that shares this information at: https://lifelinechild.org/resources-for-friends-and-family/