Felt Safety... Right Now?

May 28, 2020 megan
Lifeline Family Counselor speaks on how parents can help their children feel safe.
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Suicide Ideation

January 7, 2019 Justin Walters
Suicide Ideation Of all of the struggles parents can face with their children, few illicit the same level of fear that comes with suicidal ideation. Talking about suicide is hard and uncomfortable, but necessary, so we ask that you bear with us as we share some hard information with you. Suicidal thoughts, also called suicidal ideation,
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Memory and Trauma Anniversaries

January 7, 2019 Justin Walters
IMPLICIT AND EXPLICIT MEMORIES Memory is a central construct to the development of children. We learn through observing others and by interacting with the world around us. This in turn influences our behavior. It is widely accepted that prior to the age of three, memories cannot be recalled or stored. However, recent research suggests that
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Acting out Sexually

January 7, 2019 Justin Walters
ACTING OUT SEXUALLY One of the most perplexing and taboo topics for parents can be that of sexuality. Parents welcome vulnerable children/teens into their homes, and are often surprised and uncomfortable when confronted with sexual behavior or fearful of what will happen if they do encounter this issue. Common issues include: acting out sexually with
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Self-Soothing

January 4, 2019 Justin Walters
Self-soothing behaviors in children and adolescents from hard places can be confusing and the range of parental responses to such behaviors can be vast.  Some families look at this behavior and may think it is developmentally appropriate while others may think something is “wrong” with their child. Our desire is that this information will help
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Food Anxiety

January 4, 2019 Justin Walters
FOOD ANXIETY Most of us eat at least three meals a day but if you are like me, there are multiple snacks in between.  That’s a lot of time spent eating!  One of my favorite times of day is dinner time, but when you have a child with food anxiety, dinner time can turn into
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Touch

January 4, 2019 Justin Walters
Touch plays a very important part of developing attachment and bringing healing to our children who have experienced less than optimum beginnings.  It was discovered in the early 19th century that touch was just as important as food, clothing and shelter to the growth and well-being of infants. Children in orphanages were dying in spite
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Sleep

January 4, 2019 Justin Walters
SLEEP Sleepless in Seattle?  Birmingham?  Charleston?  San Antonio?   Sleep disturbances are one of the most common challenges for a child transitioning to a new home.  Causes for sleep disturbances can include: the many new exciting experiences and stimulation they have during the day that make it difficult to transition to rest, feelings of grief and
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Playing to Connect and Heal

May 11, 2017 rachelmiley
When I ask families how they are adjusting at home with their new child, they will often state, almost as an apology, “All we do is play; we are just playing.” When I hear this answer I want to shout from the rooftops “Hooray! Hooray! Hooray! They are engaging in play!” Play is the most
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10 Practical Ways to Help Your Child Heal

February 1, 2017 international
When children come into our care from hard places, whether as a newborn or an older child, they have experienced trauma. Our privilege as a parent is to walk with them through the healing that their hearts need. Is it easy? Absolutely not. However, shepherding a child in this process can be one of the
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Trauma in the Classroom

October 14, 2016 international
What is the difference between willful defiance and a trauma reaction? Children who have experienced relational or circumstantial trauma can express themselves in ways that are typically regarded as defiant misbehavior. Their minds, however, are often reacting to how their bodies have been programmed to deal with unpleasant situations, particularly responding out of fear. In
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Stranger Anxiety in Adoption

February 26, 2016 austinhardison
The process of development of stranger anxiety will occur over time and at different stages.  Think of newborn babies who do not have any fear of people; over time they develop a bond with mom and dad and the desire to stay with them rather than be passed around or left with a stranger.  This
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Food/Eating Issues

February 26, 2016 lifeline
Children may come to our homes with many challenges surrounding food. Children may have spent time wondering when they would get to eat their next meal or may have fought other children for food. These are some helpful reminders that might help: Have consistent meal times. Make meal times calm experiences, not hasty. Remember that
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Sleep Issues

February 25, 2016 Rick Singleton
Sleep disturbances are one of the most common challenges for families adopting internationally. It is important to remember your child’s traumatic history and how this can inhibit your child’s sleeping abilities. Night time can be scary. These are some reminders that might help: Remember to NOT let your child “cry it out” at night Have
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