Nutrition and the Vulnerable Child

September 12, 2019 Justin Walters
WHY NUTRITION MATTERS: A healthy diet is an important factor for everyone. When we eat properly, we give our bodies the nutrients it needs to feel our best. For a child coming from trauma, proper nutrition proves to be even more significant. A child who comes into your care through adoption or foster care is
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Stealing

September 12, 2019 Justin Walters
Stealing can be a sensitive subject for many of us, especially when there is a strong emphasis on the value of working hard in our culture. When something that belongs to us is stolen, it evokes a strong response. Sometimes this is an emotional response or even a physical response. This makes stealing something that
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Self-Harm

September 12, 2019 Justin Walters
Self-Harm is a term that may cause foster or adoptive parents’ anxiety level to go up. We hope this information will better equip you as a parent to feel pre-pared and capable to respond appropriately to this behavior. Let’s begin by de-fining what the term actually means. WHAT IS SELF-HARM? Self-harm, or self-injury, is the
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Indiscriminate Affection

February 21, 2019 rachelmiley
    We have all seen it. We have all been there. We are at a social gathering, usually a pot luck dinner at church, when that cute and adorable toddler cozies up to a random leg and puts on the death grip. But it is the wrong leg. I mean who can see faces
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Acting out Sexually

January 7, 2019 Justin Walters
ACTING OUT SEXUALLY One of the most perplexing and taboo topics for parents can be that of sexuality. Parents welcome vulnerable children/teens into their homes, and are often surprised and uncomfortable when confronted with sexual behavior or fearful of what will happen if they do encounter this issue. Common issues include: acting out sexually with
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Cocooning

January 4, 2019 Justin Walters
  WHAT IT IS AND WHAT IT IS NOT The term “cocooning “ has been applied to a number of different disciplines from social science, marketing, economic forecasting to parenting. So, what does “cocooning” mean as we apply it to adoption? Webster’s Dictionary defines cocoon as a covering usually made of silk which some insects
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Self-Care

January 4, 2019 Justin Walters
Self-Care! Are you kidding me?  Who has time for self-care? Have you seen my “to do” list?  Do you know my schedule of school events, extracurricular activities, medical appointments, and therapies?  You may feel like you do not have any time to add one more thing to your daily routine but the reality is that
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Airport Homecomings

January 3, 2019 Justin Walters
Many people may have prayed for and waited for the moment they get to meet your little one, but I would like to take a moment to remind you and your family and friends of the big picture of adoption. We encourage everyone (including the parents) to keep the child’s best interest in mind. For
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Making Sense of Senses

January 3, 2019 Justin Walters
* What to look for: o What sensory experiences does your child seek out? o What sensory experiences does your child avoid? o Where does your child struggle? A Child Can Be: * Over-responsive * Under-responsive * Sensory-craving * Over-Responsive o This person is hypersensitive or hyper-alert to sensory input. o They may be a
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Responding to Severe Behaviors

January 3, 2019 Justin Walters
* Lifeline is not certified to teach skills in TBRI Level 4: Protective Engagement. * Protective engagement refers to restrictive techniques such as restraining used to deescalate situations and keep children physically safe. * We do however want to give you tips on how to respond when your child is in “crisis mode”: o First
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Older Children & Tools for Discipline

January 3, 2019 Justin Walters
Older Children & Tools for Discipline Be a Role Model: * As parents, we must demonstrate or model what we want our children to do, especially when they do not have language to communicate with us initially. * They are much more likely to do what you do, not what you say. Provide Alternatives for
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Shaping Phrases

January 3, 2019 Justin Walters
Shaping Phrases Shaping phrases are short little scripts that focus on telling your child what to do, rather than what not to do. They are a positive alternative to a long lecture and very helpful while the child is learning your language. Often times, we tell our kids “no” or “stop” but we do not
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Time In & Think-It-Over

January 3, 2019 Justin Walters
Time In & Think-It-Over * Children from hard places are already more likely to feel disconnected from you and sending your child away teaches them that it is okay to be disconnected. * Traditional time-out can be damaging to your child’s attachment because when you send them away for their behavior you are not connecting
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Three Times Adoptive Families Need Resources

August 16, 2016 lifeline
Lifeline understands the beauty of adoption, but we also understand the loss from which it arises and the trauma surrounding the hearts of vulnerable children and their new families. Individuals who are familiar with adoption often say, “Adoption is not for the faint of heart.” Knowing the needs of families and children who come through
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Talking with a Child About His/Her Adoption

February 26, 2016 Rick Singleton
From the moment your child is placed with you, you can begin bringing up adoption, your child’s birth country and how God brought him/her into your family.  As your child learns to trust you and as your child has questions or feelings to process about adoption, he/she will be more likely to come to you
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Post Adoption Depression Syndrome

February 26, 2016 Rick Singleton
The symptoms of PADS and the symptoms of post-partum depression are quite similar: Feeling depressed or particularly irritable for most of the day. Diminished interest in activities that used to be enjoyable. Significant weight loss or gain, and/or a change in appetite. Changes in sleep pattern. Noticeable increase or decrease in motor activity (others notice
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Stranger Anxiety in Adoption

February 26, 2016 austinhardison
The process of development of stranger anxiety will occur over time and at different stages.  Think of newborn babies who do not have any fear of people; over time they develop a bond with mom and dad and the desire to stay with them rather than be passed around or left with a stranger.  This
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Bonding & Attachment for Newly Adopted Children

February 26, 2016 lifeline
The bonding and attachment process is referring to building trust, mutual affection, love, and security.  It is important to see that connecting with your child will affect all aspects of daily life and is the most important factor in positive adjustment for the adopted child and family overall.  These are some reminders that might help:
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Recommended Medical Tests Once A Child Comes Home

February 25, 2016 Rick Singleton
The following medical tests are recommended for your child upon arrival in the U.S. after an international adoption.  The completion of these tests is not required by Lifeline, but for some countries a physical exam may be required.  You may wish to check with your health insurance provider before completing the tests, as some insurance
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Sleep Issues

February 25, 2016 Rick Singleton
Sleep disturbances are one of the most common challenges for families adopting internationally. It is important to remember your child’s traumatic history and how this can inhibit your child’s sleeping abilities. Night time can be scary. These are some reminders that might help: Remember to NOT let your child “cry it out” at night Have
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