'Making Time' for Self-Care

August 4, 2020 rachelmiley
Developed by Lynn Beckett, LBSW Adapted for blog by Neisha Roberts It’s the age-old conundrum for those named “mom” or “dad” — how do you keep up with all the essential (and some fun) tasks as a parent and still have time to take care of yourself? Research shows that taking a break, rest, or
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Response to the Unexpected: Parenting

April 14, 2020 rachelmiley
Although sheltering in place can bring many positive opportunities to our homes, the unpredictability and stress of the situation can caused unexpected challenges. Your child’s behavior may have regressed due to the unpredictability and stress of this new normal during the COVID-19 crisis. While trying to maintain some sanity, you may have slipped into some
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Navigating the Hospital pt. 5

January 7, 2019 Justin Walters
Games and Activities to do During your Child’s Hospital Stay It is common for most children’s hospitals to have a playroom available for your children in the hospital along with a large stock of games, toys and activities. If you are not told about a playroom or available games and toys, don’t be afraid to
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Your Child's Love Languages

January 7, 2019 Justin Walters
L-O-V-E February is the month of Love.  We begin to see Hearts and Cupids wherever we go.  Those icons can serve as reminders to us of the importance of  loving our children well.  It is easy in the midst of life’s business to become more perfunctory in our role as a parent.  We fall into
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Navigating the Hospital pt.4

January 7, 2019 Justin Walters
Navigating the Hospital: Caring for your Children remaining at home Caring for a child in the hospital can be an all-consuming task especially while trying to build and maintain attachment. The Hospital experience may feel like it takes all of your energy, all of your time, and all of your capacity. In previous articles we
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Navigating the Hospital pt. 3

January 7, 2019 Justin Walters
NAVIGATING THE HOSPITAL: Maintaining a Connection The period of time following your child’s adoption is critical for developing and maintaining connection and attachment.  Once home, your goal is to create an environment that is safe and conducive for healing. You and your child are beginning to learn about one another and forming a relationship. In
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Navigating the Hospital pt. 2

January 7, 2019 Justin Walters
Understanding and Supporting Your Child During A Hospitalization As a parent, you may not know how to support your child during a hospitalization or medical procedure. If newly home, you may not feel as if you fully know or understand your child’s personality or temperament. Learning how the hospital stay may impact your child will
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Navigating the Hospital

January 7, 2019 Justin Walters
NAVIGATING THE HOSPITAL A hospital stay or medical procedure can be a scary and overwhelming experience for a child of any age, as well as for parents. The sterile environment, people wearing scrubs everywhere, and new and unfamiliar sights, smells, and sounds can bring about a sense of anxiety and fear in children and adults.
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Technology

January 4, 2019 Justin Walters
Technology, social media, social networking sites, the internet; those words carry a lot of weight in our society and have brought significant change in how we do most everything in life. Many leading researchers say that children ages 0-3 need absolutely no screen time due to their developmental needs and brain growth. Older children need
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ABC’s for a Successful Start to the School Year

January 4, 2019 Justin Walters
What feelings did you have as summer vacation ended and the new school year began?  You may have experienced a range of feelings that included disappointment, excitement, delight, hopefulness, fear, anxiety, worry and insecurity. A new school year is loaded with so many changes! It can bring with it meeting new teachers, learning new schedules,
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Self-Care

January 4, 2019 Justin Walters
Self-Care! Are you kidding me?  Who has time for self-care? Have you seen my “to do” list?  Do you know my schedule of school events, extracurricular activities, medical appointments, and therapies?  You may feel like you do not have any time to add one more thing to your daily routine but the reality is that
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Touch

January 4, 2019 Justin Walters
Touch plays a very important part of developing attachment and bringing healing to our children who have experienced less than optimum beginnings.  It was discovered in the early 19th century that touch was just as important as food, clothing and shelter to the growth and well-being of infants. Children in orphanages were dying in spite
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Parenting: How to Deliver a Consequence

February 16, 2018 rachelmiley
These discussions of trauma and attachment can, at times, leave a parent feeling paralyzed in how to respond to misbehavior for fear they will cause further damage and trauma...As we provide discipline, (training that corrects, molds, and encourages moral character) rather than punishment (which can be punitive and create fear in a child), we help that child find the secure foundation they need.
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Resources For Babysitters and Childcare Workers

July 25, 2017 rachelmiley
As a foster or adoptive parent, it is important for you to seek childcare for your children where the workers understand and can provide at least a very base level of trauma-informed care. These training videos can help prepare everyone from your favorite date night babysitter to church nursery workers as they care for children
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Frequently Asked Questions about Counseling

June 13, 2017 rachelmiley
At Lifeline, we know that families struggle post placement, and we expect challenges to arise as part of the journey. We desire to be a safe place where they can seek help from those struggles. Throughout the following frequently asked questions, we want to shed light onto what counseling at Lifeline looks like and to help answer some lingering questions many adoptive and foster families may have.
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Holiday Tips for Waiting Families

November 8, 2016 international
As the holidays roll in, you may find yourself in a time of longing and waiting—waiting for your family to be complete; waiting for your child; and waiting on the Lord’s perfect timing. One friend of Lifeline said, “My younger sister was adopted, and I remember my parents . . . being so consumed with
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Three Times Adoptive Families Need Resources

August 16, 2016 lifeline
Lifeline understands the beauty of adoption, but we also understand the loss from which it arises and the trauma surrounding the hearts of vulnerable children and their new families. Individuals who are familiar with adoption often say, “Adoption is not for the faint of heart.” Knowing the needs of families and children who come through
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Talking with a Child About His/Her Adoption

February 26, 2016 Rick Singleton
From the moment your child is placed with you, you can begin bringing up adoption, your child’s birth country and how God brought him/her into your family.  As your child learns to trust you and as your child has questions or feelings to process about adoption, he/she will be more likely to come to you
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Post Adoption Depression Syndrome

February 26, 2016 Rick Singleton
The symptoms of PADS and the symptoms of post-partum depression are quite similar: Feeling depressed or particularly irritable for most of the day. Diminished interest in activities that used to be enjoyable. Significant weight loss or gain, and/or a change in appetite. Changes in sleep pattern. Noticeable increase or decrease in motor activity (others notice
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Grieving as Parents

February 26, 2016 lifeline
Many times people assume children will grieve their losses in a fostering or adoption situation; however, it is not always assumed that the parents might grieve as well.  Foster or adoptive parents can sometimes grieve certain things they miss about their lives before their new child came home, even if they are thrilled to have
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