Nutrition and the Vulnerable Child

September 12, 2019 Justin Walters
WHY NUTRITION MATTERS: A healthy diet is an important factor for everyone. When we eat properly, we give our bodies the nutrients it needs to feel our best. For a child coming from trauma, proper nutrition proves to be even more significant. A child who comes into your care through adoption or foster care is
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Stealing

September 12, 2019 Justin Walters
Stealing can be a sensitive subject for many of us, especially when there is a strong emphasis on the value of working hard in our culture. When something that belongs to us is stolen, it evokes a strong response. Sometimes this is an emotional response or even a physical response. This makes stealing something that
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Self-Harm

September 12, 2019 Justin Walters
Self-Harm is a term that may cause foster or adoptive parents’ anxiety level to go up. We hope this information will better equip you as a parent to feel pre-pared and capable to respond appropriately to this behavior. Let’s begin by de-fining what the term actually means. WHAT IS SELF-HARM? Self-harm, or self-injury, is the
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Indiscriminate Affection

February 21, 2019 rachelmiley
    We have all seen it. We have all been there. We are at a social gathering, usually a pot luck dinner at church, when that cute and adorable toddler cozies up to a random leg and puts on the death grip. But it is the wrong leg. I mean who can see faces
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Suicide Ideation

January 7, 2019 Justin Walters
Suicide Ideation Of all of the struggles parents can face with their children, few illicit the same level of fear that comes with suicidal ideation. Talking about suicide is hard and uncomfortable, but necessary, so we ask that you bear with us as we share some hard information with you. Suicidal thoughts, also called suicidal ideation,
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Cursing

January 7, 2019 Justin Walters
Cursing When entering into this journey of adoption and/or foster care, parents are often excited and nervous about the challenges they will face. They want so desperately to love a child who needs love, to provide a home and a family for an orphan or child in need. What they are not always prepared for
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Defiance

January 7, 2019 Justin Walters
DEFIANCE When I think about a defiant child, I am reminded of the Prodigal Son parable found in Luke 15. What an amazing example of a parent’s reaction of love, grace, and security and an incredible picture of our Heavenly Father’s continuous grace and mercy. The Prodigal Son was defiant – he used the resources
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Siblings: Resolving Conflict

January 7, 2019 Justin Walters
SIBLINGS:  RESOLVING CONFLICT P.E.A.C.E. As a parent my children’s arguments often sent me over the edge!  I wanted our home to be peaceful! In Romans 12:18  Paul writes these challenging words, “If possible, so far as it depends on you, be at peace with all men.”  Paul was obviously an only child!   For any relationship
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Accusations

January 7, 2019 Justin Walters
Accusations Coming from trauma and/or a long time in foster care, children learn many skills to help them survive. While some of these skills are excellent, like advocating for themselves and being able to talk to adults about what they need, they also tend to develop some maladaptive tendencies like manipulation, lying, and even accusing
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Acting out Sexually

January 7, 2019 Justin Walters
ACTING OUT SEXUALLY One of the most perplexing and taboo topics for parents can be that of sexuality. Parents welcome vulnerable children/teens into their homes, and are often surprised and uncomfortable when confronted with sexual behavior or fearful of what will happen if they do encounter this issue. Common issues include: acting out sexually with
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Winter Blues

January 7, 2019 Justin Walters
THE WINTER BLUES Regardless of where you live, the shorter days of winter along with the messy weather can create havoc for our foster and adoptive children.  We see a correlation between increased behavioral issues and the number of days children are not able to be outside for play.  Children may span the continuum of
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Manipulation and Control

January 4, 2019 Justin Walters
“You’re not the boss of me,” is a childhood declaration of mine that now lives in family infamy. Growing up I longed for independence, and this announcement was my way of expressing it. Children have a God-given desire to impact their environment and make choices. But perhaps you know a child who, like me, takes
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Ingratitude

January 4, 2019 Justin Walters
INGRATITUDE Gratitude comes easier to some of us because of life lessons and experiences. It is a virtue that is cultivated over time, over a life span. However, many children haven’t had the healthy life lessons or a loving caregiver to help them develop a grateful heart. In a world where the cultural norm is
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Merry Christmas or is it?

January 4, 2019 Justin Walters
For many of us the Christmas Season generates excitement which can include everything from planning special meals and gifts, attending seasonal programs with Christmas music and time with family.  For a child from foster care the memories of Christmas may not be so merry! For many of our adopted children they may be experiencing the
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Lying

January 4, 2019 Justin Walters
LYING Although I can now confidently say that integrity is a value that I hold in high regard, as a child, I must confess that I had a bit of a lying problem. I frequently lied as an attempt to stay out of trouble or to “earn” approval. Honesty was a virtue that I had
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Self-Soothing

January 4, 2019 Justin Walters
Self-soothing behaviors in children and adolescents from hard places can be confusing and the range of parental responses to such behaviors can be vast.  Some families look at this behavior and may think it is developmentally appropriate while others may think something is “wrong” with their child. Our desire is that this information will help
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Food Anxiety

January 4, 2019 Justin Walters
FOOD ANXIETY Most of us eat at least three meals a day but if you are like me, there are multiple snacks in between.  That’s a lot of time spent eating!  One of my favorite times of day is dinner time, but when you have a child with food anxiety, dinner time can turn into
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Sleep

January 4, 2019 Justin Walters
SLEEP Sleepless in Seattle?  Birmingham?  Charleston?  San Antonio?   Sleep disturbances are one of the most common challenges for a child transitioning to a new home.  Causes for sleep disturbances can include: the many new exciting experiences and stimulation they have during the day that make it difficult to transition to rest, feelings of grief and
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Making Sense of Senses

January 3, 2019 Justin Walters
* What to look for: o What sensory experiences does your child seek out? o What sensory experiences does your child avoid? o Where does your child struggle? A Child Can Be: * Over-responsive * Under-responsive * Sensory-craving * Over-Responsive o This person is hypersensitive or hyper-alert to sensory input. o They may be a
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Responding to Severe Behaviors

January 3, 2019 Justin Walters
* Lifeline is not certified to teach skills in TBRI Level 4: Protective Engagement. * Protective engagement refers to restrictive techniques such as restraining used to deescalate situations and keep children physically safe. * We do however want to give you tips on how to respond when your child is in “crisis mode”: o First
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