Nutrition and the Vulnerable Child

September 12, 2019 Justin Walters
WHY NUTRITION MATTERS: A healthy diet is an important factor for everyone. When we eat properly, we give our bodies the nutrients it needs to feel our best. For a child coming from trauma, proper nutrition proves to be even more significant. A child who comes into your care through adoption or foster care is
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Stealing

September 12, 2019 Justin Walters
Stealing can be a sensitive subject for many of us, especially when there is a strong emphasis on the value of working hard in our culture. When something that belongs to us is stolen, it evokes a strong response. Sometimes this is an emotional response or even a physical response. This makes stealing something that
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Self-Harm

September 12, 2019 Justin Walters
Self-Harm is a term that may cause foster or adoptive parents’ anxiety level to go up. We hope this information will better equip you as a parent to feel pre-pared and capable to respond appropriately to this behavior. Let’s begin by de-fining what the term actually means. WHAT IS SELF-HARM? Self-harm, or self-injury, is the
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Indiscriminate Affection

February 21, 2019 rachelmiley
    We have all seen it. We have all been there. We are at a social gathering, usually a pot luck dinner at church, when that cute and adorable toddler cozies up to a random leg and puts on the death grip. But it is the wrong leg. I mean who can see faces
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Suicide Ideation

January 7, 2019 Justin Walters
Suicide Ideation Of all of the struggles parents can face with their children, few illicit the same level of fear that comes with suicidal ideation. Talking about suicide is hard and uncomfortable, but necessary, so we ask that you bear with us as we share some hard information with you. Suicidal thoughts, also called suicidal ideation,
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Navigating the Hospital pt. 5

January 7, 2019 Justin Walters
Games and Activities to do During your Child’s Hospital Stay It is common for most children’s hospitals to have a playroom available for your children in the hospital along with a large stock of games, toys and activities. If you are not told about a playroom or available games and toys, don’t be afraid to
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Cursing

January 7, 2019 Justin Walters
Cursing When entering into this journey of adoption and/or foster care, parents are often excited and nervous about the challenges they will face. They want so desperately to love a child who needs love, to provide a home and a family for an orphan or child in need. What they are not always prepared for
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Memory and Trauma Anniversaries

January 7, 2019 Justin Walters
IMPLICIT AND EXPLICIT MEMORIES Memory is a central construct to the development of children. We learn through observing others and by interacting with the world around us. This in turn influences our behavior. It is widely accepted that prior to the age of three, memories cannot be recalled or stored. However, recent research suggests that
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Defiance

January 7, 2019 Justin Walters
DEFIANCE When I think about a defiant child, I am reminded of the Prodigal Son parable found in Luke 15. What an amazing example of a parent’s reaction of love, grace, and security and an incredible picture of our Heavenly Father’s continuous grace and mercy. The Prodigal Son was defiant – he used the resources
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Siblings: Resolving Conflict

January 7, 2019 Justin Walters
SIBLINGS:  RESOLVING CONFLICT P.E.A.C.E. As a parent my children’s arguments often sent me over the edge!  I wanted our home to be peaceful! In Romans 12:18  Paul writes these challenging words, “If possible, so far as it depends on you, be at peace with all men.”  Paul was obviously an only child!   For any relationship
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Siblings: Promoting Attachments

January 7, 2019 Justin Walters
SIBLINGS:  PROMOTING ATTACHMENTS A strong emphasis is placed on parents attaching to their new child, but it is equally important for all family members to become connected. Now that you are home with your newest family member and are over the jet lag you may be wondering, where do we go from here?  How do
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Accusations

January 7, 2019 Justin Walters
Accusations Coming from trauma and/or a long time in foster care, children learn many skills to help them survive. While some of these skills are excellent, like advocating for themselves and being able to talk to adults about what they need, they also tend to develop some maladaptive tendencies like manipulation, lying, and even accusing
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Your Child's Love Languages

January 7, 2019 Justin Walters
L-O-V-E February is the month of Love.  We begin to see Hearts and Cupids wherever we go.  Those icons can serve as reminders to us of the importance of  loving our children well.  It is easy in the midst of life’s business to become more perfunctory in our role as a parent.  We fall into
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Winter Blues

January 7, 2019 Justin Walters
THE WINTER BLUES Regardless of where you live, the shorter days of winter along with the messy weather can create havoc for our foster and adoptive children.  We see a correlation between increased behavioral issues and the number of days children are not able to be outside for play.  Children may span the continuum of
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Navigating the Hospital pt.4

January 7, 2019 Justin Walters
Navigating the Hospital: Caring for your Children remaining at home Caring for a child in the hospital can be an all-consuming task especially while trying to build and maintain attachment. The Hospital experience may feel like it takes all of your energy, all of your time, and all of your capacity. In previous articles we
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Navigating the Hospital pt. 3

January 7, 2019 Justin Walters
NAVIGATING THE HOSPITAL: Maintaining a Connection The period of time following your child’s adoption is critical for developing and maintaining connection and attachment.  Once home, your goal is to create an environment that is safe and conducive for healing. You and your child are beginning to learn about one another and forming a relationship. In
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Navigating the Hospital pt. 2

January 7, 2019 Justin Walters
Understanding and Supporting Your Child During A Hospitalization As a parent, you may not know how to support your child during a hospitalization or medical procedure. If newly home, you may not feel as if you fully know or understand your child’s personality or temperament. Learning how the hospital stay may impact your child will
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Navigating the Hospital

January 7, 2019 Justin Walters
NAVIGATING THE HOSPITAL A hospital stay or medical procedure can be a scary and overwhelming experience for a child of any age, as well as for parents. The sterile environment, people wearing scrubs everywhere, and new and unfamiliar sights, smells, and sounds can bring about a sense of anxiety and fear in children and adults.
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Manipulation and Control

January 4, 2019 Justin Walters
“You’re not the boss of me,” is a childhood declaration of mine that now lives in family infamy. Growing up I longed for independence, and this announcement was my way of expressing it. Children have a God-given desire to impact their environment and make choices. But perhaps you know a child who, like me, takes
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Ingratitude

January 4, 2019 Justin Walters
INGRATITUDE Gratitude comes easier to some of us because of life lessons and experiences. It is a virtue that is cultivated over time, over a life span. However, many children haven’t had the healthy life lessons or a loving caregiver to help them develop a grateful heart. In a world where the cultural norm is
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