Many times people assume children will grieve their losses in a fostering or adoption situation; however, it is not always assumed that the parents might grieve as well.  Foster or adoptive parents can sometimes grieve certain things they miss about their lives before their new child came home, even if they are thrilled to have the new child.

• Parents need to remember that it is okay to miss things about the past as long as those feeling do not interfere with their ability to bond with the new child.
• Parents need to consult with their doctor or social worker if negative feeling persists