Accusations

January 7, 2019 Justin Walters
Accusations Coming from trauma and/or a long time in foster care, children learn many skills to help them survive. While some of these skills are excellent, like advocating for themselves and being able to talk to adults about what they need, they also tend to develop some maladaptive tendencies like manipulation, lying, and even accusing
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Acting out Sexually

January 7, 2019 Justin Walters
ACTING OUT SEXUALLY One of the most perplexing and taboo topics for parents can be that of sexuality. Parents welcome vulnerable children/teens into their homes, and are often surprised and uncomfortable when confronted with sexual behavior or fearful of what will happen if they do encounter this issue. Common issues include: acting out sexually with
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Your Child's Love Languages

January 7, 2019 Justin Walters
L-O-V-E February is the month of Love.  We begin to see Hearts and Cupids wherever we go.  Those icons can serve as reminders to us of the importance of  loving our children well.  It is easy in the midst of life’s business to become more perfunctory in our role as a parent.  We fall into
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Winter Blues

January 7, 2019 Justin Walters
THE WINTER BLUES Regardless of where you live, the shorter days of winter along with the messy weather can create havoc for our foster and adoptive children.  We see a correlation between increased behavioral issues and the number of days children are not able to be outside for play.  Children may span the continuum of
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Navigating the Hospital pt.4

January 7, 2019 Justin Walters
Navigating the Hospital: Caring for your Children remaining at home Caring for a child in the hospital can be an all-consuming task especially while trying to build and maintain attachment. The Hospital experience may feel like it takes all of your energy, all of your time, and all of your capacity. In previous articles we
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Navigating the Hospital pt. 3

January 7, 2019 Justin Walters
NAVIGATING THE HOSPITAL: Maintaining a Connection The period of time following your child’s adoption is critical for developing and maintaining connection and attachment.  Once home, your goal is to create an environment that is safe and conducive for healing. You and your child are beginning to learn about one another and forming a relationship. In
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Navigating the Hospital pt. 2

January 7, 2019 Justin Walters
Understanding and Supporting Your Child During A Hospitalization As a parent, you may not know how to support your child during a hospitalization or medical procedure. If newly home, you may not feel as if you fully know or understand your child’s personality or temperament. Learning how the hospital stay may impact your child will
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Navigating the Hospital

January 7, 2019 Justin Walters
NAVIGATING THE HOSPITAL A hospital stay or medical procedure can be a scary and overwhelming experience for a child of any age, as well as for parents. The sterile environment, people wearing scrubs everywhere, and new and unfamiliar sights, smells, and sounds can bring about a sense of anxiety and fear in children and adults.
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Mississippi State Director

January 7, 2019 lifeline
Jackson, MS Position Type: Full-time, salaried Directs and evaluates a Christian program of child-placing which is child and family centered, which is within the limits of function and policy established by the Board of Directors, and which is based on sound Christian concepts and standards. Responsible for: Organizes and directs the work of the state office and
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Manipulation and Control

January 4, 2019 Justin Walters
“You’re not the boss of me,” is a childhood declaration of mine that now lives in family infamy. Growing up I longed for independence, and this announcement was my way of expressing it. Children have a God-given desire to impact their environment and make choices. But perhaps you know a child who, like me, takes
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Ingratitude

January 4, 2019 Justin Walters
INGRATITUDE Gratitude comes easier to some of us because of life lessons and experiences. It is a virtue that is cultivated over time, over a life span. However, many children haven’t had the healthy life lessons or a loving caregiver to help them develop a grateful heart. In a world where the cultural norm is
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Merry Christmas or is it?

January 4, 2019 Justin Walters
For many of us the Christmas Season generates excitement which can include everything from planning special meals and gifts, attending seasonal programs with Christmas music and time with family.  For a child from foster care the memories of Christmas may not be so merry! For many of our adopted children they may be experiencing the
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Play

January 4, 2019 Justin Walters
When I ask families newly home with their child how they are adjusting, they will often state, almost as an apology, “All we do is play, we are just playing”.  When I hear this I want to shout from the rooftops “Hooray! Hooray! Hooray! They are engaging in Play!” Play is the most important activity
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Technology

January 4, 2019 Justin Walters
Technology, social media, social networking sites, the internet; those words carry a lot of weight in our society and have brought significant change in how we do most everything in life. Many leading researchers say that children ages 0-3 need absolutely no screen time due to their developmental needs and brain growth. Older children need
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ABC’s for a Successful Start to the School Year

January 4, 2019 Justin Walters
What feelings did you have as summer vacation ended and the new school year began?  You may have experienced a range of feelings that included disappointment, excitement, delight, hopefulness, fear, anxiety, worry and insecurity. A new school year is loaded with so many changes! It can bring with it meeting new teachers, learning new schedules,
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Cocooning

January 4, 2019 Justin Walters
COCOONING: WHAT IT IS AND WHAT IT IS NOT The term “cocooning “ has been applied to a number of different disciplines from social science, marketing, economic forecasting to parenting. So, what does “cocooning” mean as we apply it to adoption? Webster’s Dictionary defines cocoon as a covering usually made of silk which some insects
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Self-Care

January 4, 2019 Justin Walters
Self-Care! Are you kidding me?  Who has time for self-care? Have you seen my “to do” list?  Do you know my schedule of school events, extracurricular activities, medical appointments, and therapies?  You may feel like you do not have any time to add one more thing to your daily routine but the reality is that
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Lying

January 4, 2019 Justin Walters
LYING Although I can now confidently say that integrity is a value that I hold in high regard, as a child, I must confess that I had a bit of a lying problem. I frequently lied as an attempt to stay out of trouble or to “earn” approval. Honesty was a virtue that I had
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Self-Soothing

January 4, 2019 Justin Walters
Self-soothing behaviors in children and adolescents from hard places can be confusing and the range of parental responses to such behaviors can be vast.  Some families look at this behavior and may think it is developmentally appropriate while others may think something is “wrong” with their child. Our desire is that this information will help
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Summer Fun

January 4, 2019 Justin Walters
Great memories were triggered as we cut into the first watermelon of the summer season. Memories from childhood which meant days without schedules, sleeping in late and staying outside playing until those last beams of the sun disappeared.   When I became a mother I too looked forward to summer which meant a reprieve from early
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